This is a general statement, but one that impacts our culture AND what level of intimacy we are able to reach within our relationships.
It is a “toxic” masculine idea that usually is talked about with men and boys, but can be true for anyone that is a high achiever, has a high drive, and a particularly strong work ethic.
It’s the people we depend on.
When who we are is dependable, when we are the providers, when profits dip when we don’t have our hands on the wheel, it can be impossible to express when you are needing something extra, something different, something to help, or someone to lean on – even when it’s just for a moment.
And when, uncharacteristically, a machine of a human being finds themselves in need and vulnerable, how do we help?
𝘿𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙗𝙖𝙘𝙠 𝙪𝙥 𝙖𝙨 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙘𝙠𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙨 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚?
𝘿𝙤 𝙬𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙣 30 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙚’𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪?
𝘿𝙤 𝙞𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙖𝙮, 𝙤𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨! 𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 🙂
It can be difficult to feel held when you’re always doing the holding.
This is why it’s important to develop relationships where those around us can recognize when we are feeling vulnerable and provide the safety, care, and intimacy we all crave.