This is a general statement, but one that impacts our culture AND what level of intimacy we are able to reach within our relationships.
It is a “toxic” masculine idea that usually is talked about with men and boys, but can be true for anyone that is a high achiever, has a high drive, and a particularly strong work ethic.ย
Itโs the people we depend on.
When who we are is dependable, when we are the providers, when profits dip when we donโt have our hands on the wheel, it can be impossible to express when you are needing something extra, something different, something to help, or someone to lean on – even when itโs just for a moment.
And when, uncharacteristically, a machine of a human being finds themselves in need and vulnerable, how do we help?
๐ฟ๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ช๐ฅ ๐๐จ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐จ ๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐จ๐๐๐ก๐?
๐ฟ๐ค ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ค๐ง๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ข๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐จ ๐๐ฃ 30 ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐โ๐ง๐ ๐๐ก๐ก ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช?
๐ฟ๐ค ๐๐ข๐ข๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฉ ๐ง๐๐๐จ๐จ๐ช๐ง๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐จ๐๐ฎ, ๐ค๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ข๐๐ ๐ ๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ค๐ช๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ! ๐๐ค๐ชโ๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐ค๐ฃ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐จ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ ๐ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฌ ๐
It can be difficult to feel held when youโre always doing the holding.ย
This is why itโs important to develop relationships where those around us can recognize when we are feeling vulnerable and provide the safety, care, and intimacy we all crave.
